I had planned to write the first “money” post,
but the weekend went a bit different than planned.
Relationships need work.
Yes,
most relationships start off pretty good,
but after a while
day to day life starts to shine through the cracks in candy land.
When this happens
you can give up
and move on to the next one
(and I have to admit:
I’m guilty of doing this more than once!)
Or you can start working on it.
And when you start working on it
better give it your best.
And half hearted attempt will fail.
And it will fail miserably.
Whatever you do,
the most important thing to remember is:
Work on it together!
You can not fix it alone.
And your partner can neither.
Any attempt to fix a relationship
without getting both partners involved
is doomed from the start.
I was watching the relationship to my GF
go downhill for a long time
and I tried to fix it alone for a long time.
And things only got worse.
When you start working on it:
Be precise and write it down!
****Your partner will not “just understand you”.
If she did, you wouldn’t be in trouble.
Your partner will not “remember that you talked about that”
especially not in the next heated up situation when your brains
shut off.
Write down what you decide to do
and put up the list somewhere where you can look at it.
The inside of your sleeping/dressing room cupboard door
is a very good place.
Nobody will “stumble” onto it,
but you both know it’s there.
I’m in no way a “trained relationship expert”,
but I have lots of first hand experience
and the engineer in me is trained to
recognize patterns.
One thing that I tend to forget,
but which I will keep on my radar this time.
**Consider professional help.
**
The cost of counseling might look like a no no,
but a divorce costs more (money).
And loosing somebody you love costs even more (heart and soul).
Become happy!
